Selfish in marriage? How come?

Not selfish at all--I am single/div with 4 kids who are great--but they take a lot of time and money---maybe one day when you are older will regret not having the family around-but as long as you are a great couple and have nieces and nephews you will be fine--everyone is different and makes the best choices for them--don't listen to anyone and follow what you need in life--everyone does not need to have children.